Sexual is a very important part of a healthy marriage. I am going to be talking about as something that proceeds marriage, not before. There is a saying men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots. Men become more excited more quickly. Male plumming is on the outside and female is on the inside. Boys are more aware of sexual anatomy than girls. You should marry someone because you love them not because you find them attractive and want to be physical. Something that feels good now might now feel good later. Also what doesn't feel good could feel good another time. You need to be gentle and patient with each other. Women tend to want to feel secure and loved before they are intimate and men feel that when they have sex then they will feel close to her and love her. You need to communicate with each other and find a balance between the two. Each person needs to feel loved and appreciated. The brain is the most important sex organ. There are three chemicals released when you make love to someone; seratonon, dopamine, and oxytocin. Seratonon is the "aha feel good. Dopamine is the Yeah. Oxytocin is the one that connects or bonds you together. A lot of the time we have been told no, no, no, go. That sometimes makes us a little more hesitant to have physcal intimacy once we are married. It is a relationship, you need to talk about it and work together.
Four Anticipated Problems:
1. It doesn't come "naturally"
2. May consider bad or wrong
3. May be hard to talk about or explain
4. Potential misunderstanding
Five Important Things to Remember:
1. Sex requires great selflessness.
2. Can "know" well beyond yourself
3. Exclusive connections
4. Seek inspiration
5. Feel deep compassion